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Alex is a person after my own muffled yowl and whimper as the mission creeps put on their dark bureau macs and start to safeguard away . My dogged sense shivers ..

There's no doubt though , they will protect some kids and I am all for that, but I am not so sure the State safeguarding away with new rules will not get out of hand at some point.

Alex is also spot on about the family and known contacts of the family being the main way kids are introduced to abuse (and children's homes !)

Of-course Middle England, I daresay, behind the lobby scenes have reacted quite strongly to their friends and peers being "safeguarded" upon when escorting kids to brownies or scouts or whatever ... So there's a hole in the safeguarding tactic right away isn't there , and I am not sure that its so easy to plug ..

Treatments for child abused people and even remedial behaviour treatment for pedophiles is not so high on the agenda though is it ? Its all pushed away or marginalised still and believe me its worse if you are a male child that been sexually abused by a woman (See Michele Eliot's of Kidscape work on Female sexual abusers of children) . Males that have been sexually abused are marginalised even more by the social mores .

Most Personality Disordered folk have been abused - often sexually .. And in the community they are often left to themselves to become broken individuals. In the case of pedophiles they become serious weirdoes who languish in their diversions and sniff around under cover . (Ray Wyre of the Gracewell Clinic in the past did some useful work on helping pedophiles though become self aware and stop offending)

What we need is a lot more opened up dialogue with parts of the abusers and abused spectrum of experience creating insights . Intelligent openess potentiates safeguarding and raises consciousness in all its aspects. NHS Trusts could learn a lot from that ..

We will find whether it about abusers or abused its all closely related in terms of developmental hell that shapes people as kids ...

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